How long should our first dance be?

2:30 to 3:00 is the sweet spot. 4:32 is going to feel long.

What I'd do:

• Have your DJ fade out the song around 2:45-3:00. Most DJs do this by default; ask explicitly so it's on the cue sheet.
• If you can't bear cutting your song, do an "invitation dance" — start the first dance just the two of you, then around minute 2 invite parents in, then around minute 3 invite the wedding party, then everyone. Keeps the floor full and you're not alone for the back half.

The other framing: the photos people remember from your first dance are the close moments — forehead touches, the laugh, the dip at the end. None of those need 4 minutes. They take about 60 seconds total.